Boomers are having lots of sex and loving it

With the years of raising a family and career-building behind them, baby boomers are devoting more energy to intimacy and sex.

Jordan Heuvelmans 3 minute read February 14, 2020

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Contrary to a popular belief that sex drive fades as you age, baby boomers may be actually be getting friskier.

Boomers (those born between 1946 and 1964) may be redefining the way we look at sexuality as we age, breaking taboos about sexuality and age that have been the norm for years. Lifestyles After 50 writes that as boomers age, more and more studies are debunking the myth that the elderly don’t have sex or don’t enjoy it.

Stephanie A. Sanders, director of a sexual research group told Lifestyles After 50 that while the frequency or ability to perform does decline as we age — which is normal — the majority of people ages 50 years old to 80 years old are much more enthusiastic about intimacy and sex than those in the past.

Boomers are experiencing a greater sense of wellness than ever before, leaving room to increasingly prioritize important relationships in their lives. With the years of raising a family and building careers behind them, they now have time and energy to devote to their love lives and exploring intimacy.

This can boost the chemistry between couples who are looking to reconnect with each other after the children leave the house or once they retire. It’s a newfound freedom that Barbara Mitchell, a sociology and gerontology professor at Simon Fraser University in Burnaby, B.C., says gives couples a chance to refocus the spotlight on their relationship.

She told Maclean’s that this rediscovery can be invigorating, as many start exercising, pampering themselves and connecting (or reconnecting) with their sexuality.

“If you stay interested, stay healthy and have a good mate, you can have good sex all your life,” geriatrics expert Walter Bortz, geriatrics professor at Stanford Medical School told Lifestyles After 50.

“Best of all, it’s good for you. There’s strong data all over: It’s a matter of survival,” he says. “People that have sex live longer. People need physical connection. The more intimate the connection, the more powerful the effects.”

There’s also tons of data to support how boomers are making the effort to reconnect with their sexuality.

Lifestyles After 50 reports one study that revealed a majority of boomers (men and women) aged 45 and older said a satisfying sexual relationship was important to their quality of life. Fifty-six per cent of those aged 45 to 59 years old with sexual partners said they had sex once a week or more; of those aged 60 to 70 years old with partners, 46 per cent of men and 38% of women said they have sex at least once a week, as did 34% of those 70 and up.

There’s only one serious concern among experts however when it comes to boomers’ sex lives: unsafe sex. Maclean’s reports that in one AARP study, only one in five boomers who were single and sexually active said they used condoms regularly.

Others may wrongly assume that they are less likely to get sexually transmitted diseases due to their age or that medication for sexual issues like erectile dysfunction contain protection in them.

To combat the misinformation, new sexual health campaigns are now targeting boomers to raise awareness about practicing sex safely.